
My temperament has been shaped by many forces. The most prominent and powerful has to be my dear mother. She was a school counselor for most of my youth and whenever I'd get mad she'd sit me down and explain things in the most simplistic language how I was wrong. Whether she was right or wrong, I'll never completely know, she was able to relate to me that there was more than one way to look at something. The other was force was undoubtedly my liberal education, which made me write detailed papers on horribly complex issues, drawing on competing theories. I somehow had to make sense of it all.
Naturally, the only two things that really get me riled up are my mother and world politics which are both completely out of my control. I hate President Bush, exploitative economic policies, and wars that kill people. I have yet to win one argument with my mom. Otherwise, I am a fairly even-tempered young man. We can debate an issue and I'll always get both sides of the issue, and as long as we aren't talking about the Fiery Furnaces, I'll give someone the benefit of the doubt. Conflict is something that people do when they aren't intelligent enough to sit down and discuss.
Because I live on the Upper East Side my use of the mass transit system is mostly relegated to numbers 4, 5, or 6. It's a clean, well-maintained line that is packed at nearly every hour of the day with commuters, tourists, and other Manhattanites. Finding a seat is a rare, glorious thing, like finding a quarter on the ground and nearly as sanitary.
Because the 4, 5 was closed for maintenance below the Brooklyn Bridge, and I needed quite dearly to get into Brooklyn, I was forced, completely against my will, onto another line. Of course, it was dirty, slow, and old. The newer, better trains have seats lined perfectly straight with their backs to the windows. The older trains have staggered seating, like our friend in the picture above, no doubt meant to allow more people the pleasure of sitting down while in transit. But it creates some uncomfortable situations, especially when one sits in the corner seat, like our friend, and has roughly 5 inches of leg room before another seat is positioned.
Here's the scene: It was a busy Saturday night. A hooded young African-American (Passenger 1) was lounging in one of the corner seats with his legs sprawled out comfortably on the seat in front of him. A spiky red-haired white homosexual(Passenger 2) enters the train and looks around for a seat. He notices, quite quickly, that the young hooded gentlemen is using one of the chairs as a foot stool and asks him nicely to move it.
Passenger 2: Will you PLEASE move your foot off the seat. That is so rude. This is public transportation. This isn't your fucking car. Move your feet OFF the seat so other people can sit down.
I wouldn't say the train exploded into applause the moment Passenger 2 finished his speech, but I don't believe I was the only one to show a little smile. Here was a man with blatant disregard for everyone else and someone had the nerve to say something about it. Good for him.
Now I don't know if Passenger 1 took immediate offense, he was covered in sweatshirt, or if he was spouting off indecencies back at Passenger 2. But Passenger 2 erupted into a full-fledged rant.
Passenger 2: If you even touch me I will sue your ass for assault. Do you hear me? Is this how you solve all of your problems? How can you be so rude? This is so rude. You should let other people sit down. This is ridiculous.
It was becoming ridiculous. Passenger 2 passionate speech, no doubt, was alluding to was that putting one's foot up on a seat is indicative to other society ills. If you don't care about public transportation, then you probably wouldn't mind swiping someone's wallet. I understand this.
By this time other passengers have been drawn into the little spat. With all the wandering eyes, Passenger 1 lazily puts his feet down, like a bratty junior high student. This is not enough. Passenger 2 continues his rant. Things start to get uncomfortable. He won't stop.
Now my allegiance has turned from the boisterous courtesy cop to the misunderstood sloucher. The amount of leg room between the corner seat and the seat in front of him almost begs for one to put their foot up. As well, no one knows what Passenger 1 has been through. After a long day of work, everyone would love to spread out and put their feet up, he was just trying to get comfortable. Not that landing one's foot up on a seat is the correct thing to do, but neither is losing one's temper when talking to someone who has their feet up on a seat. It really isn't a big deal.
A very large African American man across the aisle tells Passenger 2 to "chill out, man, he put his feet down." Passenger 1, feeling backed up by a fellow traveler calls Passenger 2 a "fag". Oh... My allegiance shifts again.
If Passenger 1 is rude enough to ignore common courtesy in public spaces, then how does he act around his parents, his lovers, and his coworkers? Does he call all people who tell him how to behave "fags", or just ones that yell at him? Does it all start right here?
Passenger 2 replies to the "fag" comment with: "Yes, I am a homosexual. Does that scare you? No, I will not fight you. How big of a baby are you? If you touch me I will sue you for assault and battery."
Thinking back about what has just transpired, I have almost forgotten that this was all started because a random guy had his feet on a seat. And now things are spiraling out of control. The whole train car is in on what is going to happen between Passenger 1 and Passenger 2. Will fisticuffs break out because of concerns about common courtesy?
Luckily the train reaches the Lower East Side, Passenger 1 stands up, he's HUGE, and lumbers out of the car all smiles and bravado. Passenger 2 sits and glares at the ground. Who won that fight?